I'm handing over to my wife Sue for this blog - which is all about finding your own coping skills.
What sort of coping skills are there? There are probably thousands out there but I look at six basics. They are: belief, affect, social, cognitive, imagination and physiological.
Belief: something about those who use their firm commitments to get them by, family values, religion, politics , anything that gives meaning to our lives.
Affect: those who move in and out of different emotional states, they laugh, they cry. They deal with life as it happens.
Social: those who use the company of others, good committee members, lots of friends, relationships
Cognitive: back to the list makers, the thinkers, the information gatherers .
Imagination: what if? Daydreaming as a positive skill.
Physiological: activity based, including eating drinking, playing music, as well as more sports etc.
Which of these rings a bell with you?
People sometimes say "I haven't got any coping skills". But as long as you're breathing you're coping!
We often belittle our strengths, ‘oh, anyone can do what I do’. But it is our personal coping skills, that somehow we all develop that keep us going, particularly when times are tough.
Now excuse me, I have to make a list.